In my last posting for I.I. we talked at length about some of the psychological ways we interpret and impose beliefs on lists that we make. We talked about how how we give our lists their power, and how valuable that power really is. In this post I will continue, as promised, to talk about how setting lists in the wrong light can actually delude your end results. In this, you might find some similarities between mediums and muses in your own life.
Now, that you may look at your lists differently, or possibly you are still struggling with how they operate in your life. You might find something else arise in your experience and/or relationship with lists. This is something that everyone struggles with, but something that also feels completely natural. Through this exploration into how check-off lists can play in our lives, we discover some simple truths that apply in other areas of our lives. We are to the point now that we come to maybe realize that we make are lists to complete them. You might be asking, “What’s wrong with that? Isn’t that the point, to get them done?”. Yes, to some extent this is their purpose. But, in our lack of awareness it seems we try to bypass the in-between stages from start to finish. In other words, we see the end so vividly with such wanting that we completely miss the very valuable steps it takes to get to that end. We end up rushing over the tops of those steps as quickly as possible in our thirsty attempt to get to the end. You might also ask,”If I get to the end, what does it matter how I do the steps?”. This is, of sorts, an unwise statement for several reasons: One, you would not get to the end of your journey if it weren’t for each step taking you there. Two, the details in the steps can sometimes yield greater wisdom then the actual destination. Third, you may find that when you rush to the ending of something you miss the beauty that staying present with each step offers.
So, why do we rush? Why do continually think its a necessary process to fly as fast as we can to the end of our projects. For productivity is important, but not with lack of quality. If you notice, the things that you rush through may lack in quality or even depth. The deepness of your end result suffers as a side effect of this thinking. We also sometimes forget our intentions and why we set out in the first place for this goal. We may stray in our vision to help others, better ourselves, or make a quality product. Becoming completely consumed in how the end product will come to its completion. To some extent, we become a slave to our completion thought! This is not healthy, nor natural. For a flower blooms at the right time, given the right ingredients, with the deepest of colors. For the larva escapes from the cocoon, emerging as a beautiful butterfly just at the right moment – completely of natural accord. If we rush through our natural blooming of processes in our pursuit of the end, we damage the depth of color for which is possible.
How might we approach this in a way we can slow down the rush? Well this is simple, although simple doesn’t mean easy. Simply put, we must slow down… Slow down the way we approach life in all aspects! The tool we use to get to this point, at first, will be awareness. By becoming aware, in a nonjudgmental fashion of what we are doing, we use that spaciousness to make change. For our natural way of being is ever changing, yet stable. An interesting paradox, but if we want to apply it to change we want to make, we must first become aware of the things we want to change because of how ingrained they may seem. These things are habits, and in order to dig out yourself out of a rut, you must first realize you are in one.
Take time to slow down in a simple task of everyday! Become aware of the things your mind goes through in order to persuade you to move faster through the motions. Don’t necessarily take these orders to heart, and focus on each step as they come up – naturally.